What that source was I wasn’t sure yet, but I was getting close.īy her own admission, Daedone has led something of a chameleon’s life. They were connected in that they spoke the same lingo, had identical or similar practices, and appeared to share the same Ur-source. All focused on the skill of gently stimulating a woman (or a man) to the edge of climax in order to extend his or her orgasms, and therefore theoretically her ecstasy, past its normal limits. They were part of what Daedone like to call the ‘Slow Sex’ movement, but which I was starting to see as a full-blown orgasm industry, composed of groups and individuals mostly centred in the San Francisco Bay area. She wore a black skirt and top that looked sprayed on, and black suede boots with four-inch stiletto heels.Īlthough this was the first time I was seeing her, I’d been on the track of Daedone and her ilk for some weeks as a journalist. She was a tall, attractive, rail-thin woman, with high cheekbones and shoulder-length blonde hair. Nicole Daedone, author of the book Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm (2011), and inventor of a sexual technique called ‘Orgasmic Meditation’, walked confidently to the front of the room. Most were 30-something, good-looking, well-dressed Manhattan professionals. Perhaps 40 of us, an equal number of men and women, sat on rows of folding metal chairs in a high-ceilinged room in the ground floor of a church in New York’s East Village that had been converted into a community centre.